It was well past his bedtime when I noticed that spouse was still at the study table busy peering at his laptop screen! No music playing so I presumed that he was doing some serious study which he often does.
As I went up to him and he said ‘Aru how do you deal with situations and people you don’t understand?
Woah !! Wait a minute Doc, Lets just focus on one for now. People or Situations? It’s too huge to combine.
So People it was!! It set me thinking! After 38 years of togetherness, 2 kids, their spouses, several pets and 1 grand daughter, why are we discussing the complexity of human relationships at this hour?? I know its not easy to have an in depth understanding into the delicate dynamics of interpersonal relationships yet this question??? I wondered what brought this on? He is very zen, so this turmoil was strange and new!
Next morning while clearing up, tucked under the black Dell laptop lay a folded A4 size sheet. There was something written in his beautiful handwriting! I am one of those lucky few who doesn’t have to suffer illegible writing that is so often (unfairly ) associated with their hand written prescriptions!!! So unlike some belonging to my tribe, I dint have to take his letters (snail mail) to a pharmacy to be deciphered !
Here it is …..
“I belong to a very rare (?) breed of ‘Late’. Not to confuse it with ‘late bloomer ‘ but someone who honestly believes in the immense power of slow! Slow and steady wins the race! It was my favourite quote . I had it printed in my school year book! Slow? Guilty as charged! And Steady? Consistent at being fashionably late? Guilty yet again!
I am a late entry on FaceBook. I did not have much difficulty mastering the subjects in Medical school but I am totally perplexed with the not so fine nuances of FaceBook! The anatomy of an official page on FB appears very complicated to me! Profile picture, cover photo, like button, reply button, comment box , options about photos and events, community page, news feeds, access, tag reviews, user interface, timeline, privacy protocol, messenger and much more !! Breathless!!! I am so glad that our classes were limited to the Human Anatomy !!
My significant other can border on cynicism sometimes so when she called it was FakeBook I took umbrage. It had helped me reconnect with people I had lost touch with and I was very grateful !!
During a not so recent phone upgrade transition I lost a few contacts and after a personal request most responded immediately but a few said they had added me but hadn’t !! Faking friendship? A debate on Real versus Reel friendship? Sure bring it on !! A very harsh welcome to the real world!! ”
That was a cry to the universe, straight from the heart!! Aren’t we glad for GCF learnfree.org and many more such tutorials who walk us through the algorithm of social networking platforms .
I told spouse that once one has understood the Biology , Math and Metaphysics of FaceBook …..let the Chemistry work its way straight into the heart ! Its a beautiful space where one can sit with a cup of tea or a drink .. have casual conversations, serious discussions, share ones life and times, learn and grow! The flip side? Do I need to mention it? No I guess not!
Así que la gente hermosa .. mi familia y amigos ….I invite you to share your experiences .. The good, the bad and the ugly ! What is your FB quotient?? QED !